Hypothetical situations are my favorite.
Imagination is so important to me.
I mean, my friends have to put up with it. It’s kind of a requirement if you want to be my friend.
Everyone has a story, and if I don’t know it, I might just make one up
If I want a relationship with someone, it shouldn’t be “Oh, you seem reliable, now let us change our interests and standards in order to be a capable couple”.
No. People act like it’s a crime to not want a relationship with someone just because they’re a good person AND look good.
Like you can…
I’ve tried forcing romantic feelings on myself, I’ve found it was because that person and I already knew each other, he and I had a lot in common and we’d already devoted the time to get to know one another, but in the end he was not for me. Though I hadn’t noticed it before, we worked because I wanted it to, because physically he met what I wanted, but I realized mentally we were on two completely different planes. It’s never okay, and in the end you’re only hurting yourself and the person you’re involved with.
^^^ Exactly. If I know that we can’t be our full selves with eachother, and that we have to put on airs when we’re with eachother, then I shouldn’t be with that person. If the compatibility’s not there, then it’s not there.
People talking ionic bonds when I’m looking for Covalent, and YOU CAN’T FORCE CHEMISTRY.
Like, yes I can be faithful to someone while getting to know them and I can be good to them and all of that, but in the end, I’m going to get tired of only being able to be part of myself and if that person’s more attached than I am then they’re going to be hurt, and I’m going to feel guilty,
and none of that is worth it.
This has been my whole dating process this past school year. And people made me seem like a man-eater because I’d get to know a guy because he seemed interesting, but then I’d notice things about him that didn’t sit right with me and nip it in a bud. And it made me feel bad because they liked me more than I liked them ( if I liked them at all)
But I’ve found that you cannot burden yourself with the feelings of others, and it isn’t right to burden others with how you feel because it isn’t their fault, you know?
I’ve just learned that forcing feelings makes me feel ten times worse than being honest ever will.
The bolded yo. It was my experience this last year too. And it’s like you’re the bad guy for not giving chances, but when you do and you realize you’re not really interested, you’re the bad guy for “leading them on”
I mean I know I flirt, but it’s like I’m upfront about not wanting a relationship at the moment, especially with the women I actually chill with outside of just around school. I do that because I’m never sure who Ima be compatible with or not. And if I am, then I’ll let them know that I’m feeling different, but until then it’s no relationship.
But all of a sudden, when I tell them I don’t want to be as much as they want to, or do as much as they want to, or if I have business to adhere to and they want more time, all of a sudden I’m the bad guy.
And like you said,
it’s like you’re a man eater just because you’re giving guys chances who in the end aren’t making the cut.
Like of course you’re heartless for realizing that a relationship with someone would be a waste of time and deciding NOT TO WASTE THAT TIME. Smh